Stress & the Power of Positive Thinking

Each day is only as good as you allow it to be.

Each day is only as good as you allow it to be..

Each day is only as good as you allow it to be...

And my day begins.

I don't normally talk about work in detail on this blog as I feel my work and my 'play' are two different aspects of my life.  However, what can I do when they are both affecting each other so strongly that I begin to lose faith in other aspects of my life?  When work sucks, my creativity sucks. When my creativity sucks, I can't finish projects such as jewelry making or Christmas gifts I have planned to create.  When I can't finish my 'fun' gifts or projects, I get upset at my failure.  When I am upset with my failure, I can't even focus enough to make a simple family meal. When I can't make this simple meal, I begrudge Neal into cooking.  When I begrudge my husband I feel like a bully.  When I feel like a bully, I become depressed with my behavior.  When I am depressed, my husband gets depressed.  When we are both depressed, even the dogs get depressed.  And they cycle continues.

Work demands can be stressful.  I understand that, my coworkers understand that, my boss understand that, my husband understands that, my family understands that, and even my dogs understand that.  However, what I sometimes don't understand is how to deal with this stress.

Two types of stress, eustress & distress.  We learned these both in school years ago and I was always under the impression that meeting deadlines at work should be eustress.  The stress that encourages you to keep going, to get things done, to solve problems, to be productive.  However, there is a fine line between eustress and distress, and I think I found myself teetering on that fine line.

How do you know when you are tettering between eustress & distress?  When on a call with 12 other people, you are talking about meeting a deadline and instead of saying you are about to upload these spredsheets, you say, "I am doing this as we speak, I am working on these spreadSHITS."  And you don't even notice what you called them until someone starts to laugh....wow...I just did that!

Again, so how do I deal with this stress?  If I talk about it with my husband or others, I tend to stress them out too.  If I bottle it up, I explode.  If I try to go to yoga and calm my mind, I can get  there for an hour or two, but then once I am done, the stress picks back up.  WHAT do I do?

Seeing as my work is the main cause of my stress, I decided that I would tell myself "Each day is only as good as you allow it to be."  I want each day to be better than good, I want it to be great!  So I am going to revert to completely positive thinking for a day.  I am going to try really hard to not be negative about the projects that keep coming my way.  I also quite enjoyed these two Forbes articles:  14 Things You Should Do at the Start of Every Work Day & 14 Things You Should Do at the End of Every Work Day.  I particularly related to the Start list at Don't be moody:

     Don’t be moody. You’ll want to pay attention to your mood and be aware of its effect on others. “First and last thing in the day is when emotional intelligence can have the greatest impact,” Shindler says. So if you’re not a “morning person,” try to suck it up and have a positive attitude when you arrive at the office. Grab a second or third cup of coffee, if that’s what it takes.

The End of the Day is a little harder, and I need to be more creative since I work from home.  The final two bullet points are "Leave your stress at the door" & "Go home".   Leaving stress at the door is metaphorical for me since my office door is my computer room where I also blog, work on my Etsy store, where I find many of my workouts , and where I connect with others through social media.  Going home is also metaphorical.  I need to not be a workaholic.  If I can't meet a deadline, then I can't meet a deadline.  So be it.  As my boss even said something along these lines to me, "It is what it is & what can you do when there is this amount of work?"

So I am ending this post the way it began, I want to think positive so I can be positive.

Each day is only as good as you allow it to be.

Each day is only as good as you allow it to be.

Each day is only as good as you allow it to be.

Workout Wednesday & Bad Memory

Neal nor I wanted to be the first one to take a shower this morning as we both laid in bed while our alarms kept ringing.  He assumed I would be up and at 'em as I had been doing consistently for the last week.  I said, "No, I just want to sleep today!"  How long did that last?  Only another 5 minutes until Walden's head stayed firmly planted to the right of my sluggish body on the bed, letting out little whimpers every 3-5 seconds.  Sasha sat like a princess at the bedroom door awaiting her butler (me) to open it for her, she too was whimpering every 3-5 seconds.  I suppose there is no sleep to be had. 

Instead of getting ready for the day by cleaning myself up, putting away drying dishes and starting breakfast, all a part of my usual routine, I worked out!  I opened up an email from the Tone it Up girls from their Holiday Hottie series I signed up for a week or so ago, and I began the Fine Toning Arm Routine.  After 10 minutes, I realized I was done with the AM workout (these were actually yesterday's workouts, but I worked almost 11 hours yesterday and decided not to work out...who can blame me). 

I really like the Fine Toning Arm Routine, it would be great paired with a run, but it's frickin' cold outside and I don't run in the cold & I especially don't run in the dark!  After all, it's not even 6 am!  So I decided I would do the PM workout they posted yesterday, the Goddess Workout.  The Goddess Workout is sorta like a power yoga without all the asanas and meditative movements.  You power through the moves, though they aren't all linked together.  Somewhere between Warrior 2 Lunge and Warrior 3 Fine Toning on my second round, I remembered that I was planning on going to Hot Yoga tonight on a guest pass!  "Oiy Vey!  Why do I do this to myself?  My memory sucks!"  Those were the thoughts running through my mind as I pushed myself to complete the 2nd round of the TIU Goddess Workout.  Tonight will feel like a new day after I work, and I will push through my first ever HOT YOGA class!  Pray for me :)

By the way, did you see the list of November Workouts?  I try to update it every day so you can see the workout I am doing.  I try to include links or details so you too can try the workout!

Question of the day
Have you ever done Hot Yoga?  If so, any tips?

Menu Monday

Breath in, breath out, breath in, breath out....

I have to keep telling myself to breath slowly these days.  I have been swamped at the office and haven't had time to do much but work & stress about work.  It's not healthy, but I think the workload will decrease soon!

I have some easy meals planned for dinner this week so that I can still eat well and have time to work and workout!  By the way, November Workouts are found HERE!

Meal 1 - Warmed Spinach Salad with Shrimp
This meal is quick and tasty!  Warm up some shrimp with a 1/2 T butter and some creole seasoning in a pan on medium heat in a large pan.  In a small pan,  toast up 1/8th of a cup or so of almonds.  In the shrimp pan, add 1/2 a container of chopped roasted red peppers.  Once those were warmed, add in 4 heaping handfuls of spinach, your toasted almonds, and about 1/4 a cup of freshly shredded Parmesan.  Cook until wilted and top w/ your toasted almonds!


Meal 2 - Beef Stir Fry
All you need is the meat of your choice (we chose beef), frozen veggies, and your favorite sauce!  Cook the meat on a stove top over medium heat, add 2 cups of frozen veggies per every 4 ounces of meat, and then coat with your desired amount of sauce!  We normally mix some teriyaki, sriracha, and soy sauce.

Meal 3 - White Chicken Chili
We follow this Bush's White Chicken Chili recipe.  We add salsa to flavor while we cook and then since I am not supposed to eat tomatoes, I normally add some sour cream to mine so my throat doesn't hurt ad badly!

Meal 4 - Chicken Divan
This recipe is courtesy of Neal's mother (we cut it in 1/2 so we don't have a ton of leftovers)

Ingredients

1 10oz package of frozen broccoli

2 chicken breasts cut in to bite sized pieces

1/2 cup toasted bread crumbs (or crackers)

1/2 T butter

Sauce

1 can of cream of chicken soup

1/2 cup mayo

1/2 tsp lemon juice

1/4 tsp curry powder

1/4 cup shredded sharp cheese

Use the butter to spread a layer on an 8x8 baking pan.  Layer the broccoli & chicken.  Pour the sauce over this and top with the bread crumbs.  Bake for 25-30 min at 350 degrees.





November Workouts

November 1-10th

• 1st, Thursday: Tone it Up 'Spooktacular Workout'  I didn't do the runs, and I did all the moves 3 times through
• 2nd, Friday: off
• 3rd, Saturday:  Workout with Neal, he is now doing 'Blood & Guts' designed by Dorian Yates and we did the Chest & Bicep Workout
• 10 Minute treadmill warm-up
• Decline Dumbbell Press - I did 12 reps at 20 lbs., 25 lbs. and 30 lbs.
• Incline Dumbbell Press - I did 12 reps at 25 lbs. and then 6 reps at 30 lbs.
• Flat Bench Dumbbell Flyer - I did 12 reps at 17.5 lbs. and 9 reps at 22.5 lbs.
• Dumbbell Concentration Curls - I did 10 reps at 15 lbs. and then 7 reps at 20 lbs. with 3 negatives
• Barbell Curls - I did 10 reps at 40lbs. and then 2 negatives
• This workout was fast and really got my blood pumping.  I know most of you would see this as a "man's only" workout due to the trainer and the title, but every now and then I enjoy doing something more weight heavy so I can get my muscles moving differently and be able to enjoy a workout with Neal!
• 4th, Sunday:  Walking all around Nashville for the Titan's vs. Bears Game!
• 5th, Monday:  off
• 6th, Tuesday: off - I had the intention to workout...then we noticed Walden's eye was super red, so we took him to the Vet and found his eye was poked/scratched...after that we watched the election news and made dinner.
• 7th, Wednesday:  I plan on doing yesterday's Tone it Up Malibooty Workout 3 times through as well as their suggested follow up of 3 sets of 12 pushups and 3 sets of 20 crunches!  Can't wait for the work day to be over to fit this in!
• 8th, Thursday:  off
• 9th, Friday:  off
• 10th, Saturday: off

November 10th - 17th

• 11th, Sunday:  A 20 minute run and the  Tone it UpSeashells by the Seashore Workout
• 12th, Monday:  Tone it Up Holiday Hottie Ab Circut
• 13th, Tuesday:  Off - but boy do my abs hurt!  That TIU Ab Circut from yesterday was a GREAT workout!
• 14th, Wednesday:  Tone it Up's Fine Toning Arm Routine & their Goddess Workout with more information on it in this blog post

Menu Monday 11.5-11.9

Ooops!  The weekend caught the best of me and I didn't do any meal planning until this morning as Neal and I munched on some delicious Pumpkin Wrap-ups.  (Recipe to come!)

This was a busy weekend for Neal and myself!  On Friday, we both were exhausted from an extra long work week where I put in 47 hours and Neal put in near 55!  We decided it was the perfect night for beer and Mexican food!  After our dinner, we passed out from exhaustion.  It's weeks like that where I am thankful that we don't yet have someone little to take care of, because honestly, I don't know how moms do it sometimes!

On Saturday, I spent the majority of my morning crafting beautiful jewelery for my Etsy store, Lively Happenings:

In the mid afternoon, before our super hard workout, we dropped Walden off for a 2 night stay at dog daycare so he wouldn't be tempted to eat our couch while we were out.  :)  He's adorable that way!  Sasha, on the other hand, got to enjoy 2 nights of loving from just Mom & Dad!

The remainder of Saturday was spent at Neal's company's appreciation dinner.  I forgot to take pictures, but we looked good!  We stayed out a little later than I had planned, but thankfully daylight savings helped us out, because we had an even bigger day on Sunday....Nashville for a Titans game!!!

My first NFL game was a BUST! Neal had won tickets to the Titans vs the Bears game and we were SO excited to get to go. We had amazing seats! Now if only the Titan's had been amazing...the final score was 51-20 with the Bears just kicking out butts. It was quite sad. Neal's friends also came up for the game, so we left around half time... :( Driving home in the dark and experiencing a disappointing first NFL game did not make for an enjoyable 3 hour drive back home.

However, we did have fun in between driving and a disappointing game.  We got some cute pictures as well!

There was a rainbow in the sky that I first saw through Neal's glasses so I got my 'artistic angle'.

 This was where our seats were...no zooming in required!

And us in the seats!  So excited!

 Loved this Nashville skyline & a yacht on the water.  It couldn't get much better than that!

Looks like the Batman building is coming out of his head!

 

Since Walden was in daycare until Monday, Sasha got lots of loving when we came home, and she even slept at the foot of the bed almost all night!

On Monday morning, instead of getting our meal plan together & writing the Menu Monday blog post, I took a few hours to update my Etsy site, Lively Happenings, and celebrate that the store had been opened for a full month!  I am excited to say that I have sold over 15 items on and off the Etsy site!  Now I am hoping for an even better 2nd month!  Only time can tell!

Now finally for the food that I promise comes with Menu Monday.

Meal 1 - Chicken Pesto-Alfredo Pasta
This meal can be prepared various ways.  We took the easiest way possible.  First we boiled water for the pasta, we had linguine, and we cut up 2lbs of chicken in to bite sized pieces and cooked them over medium heat on the stove with some spices.  Once the chicken was cooked, I cut up roasted red peppers and grabbed 2 large handfuls of spinach to heat up & wilt with the chicken on low heat.  Once the spinach was wilted, I added 1/2 a jar of pesto (4 oz), and a jar of Alfredo.  No homemade sauce this week, we wanted to make this meal very simple as were were both still exhausted from our long day on Sunday!  In the oven I warmed 2 slices of sourdough bread with butter & garlic salt at 350 degrees for 5 minutes.  Once the pasta had cooked, I tossed it into my chicken & sauce mix and we enjoyed!

Meal 2 - Pork Loin with Beans & Rice
Neal went grocery shopping yesterday and picked up a pork loin which we will cook in the oven according to package directions.  I am cooking up some wild rice on the stove top and am getting black or red beans to toss into the rice. 

Meal 3 - Vegetable Chowder
I simply love a good broccoli & cheddar soup.  I have had this recipe pinned to my Pinterest board "Scrumptious Foods" for at least a year.  It's finally time to try it out!

Meal 4 - Beef Tacos
Neal told me this morning to "But a taco kit" and we will have that one night.  Honestly, I am not sure I know what a 'taco kit' is...but he explained it was a box with sauces, shells, and seasonings.  So I said, "Oh, okay, now I just need to buy the lean beef and lettuce."  To which he responded, "Yea, you just need to buy the beef."  I don't think he cares so much about the lettuce.  :)

Question of the day - "Taco Kit"...  Is this a common meal in your house?  If so, do you have an recommendations?