tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1265060199634671300.post1404858602885685576..comments2023-08-31T01:12:33.217-05:00Comments on Lively Happenings: 5 Months OldTamara Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11993885028481225796noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1265060199634671300.post-15918906193630144482015-03-02T17:17:21.050-06:002015-03-02T17:17:21.050-06:00Ellie, sorry I'm just now responding - this la...Ellie, sorry I'm just now responding - this last week was BONKERS with work stress. I will assure you that for use it has gotten easier. Now, do not get me wrong there are some nights that she still cries. Most of the time she will go down without fussing, and then cry a few minutes later for 10 min or so. However, there are some nights (1-2 a month) where she will cry for 30+ minutes. Last night, she went for an hour 15 minutes bc she didn't take a single nap all day for us. So she was WAY overtired - but she slept through the night once she stopped crying. Those longer cries do not happen often to us, but truest me I know how it is in wanting to go in and comfort, but I did not, and I'm glad I didn't in the long run. And we ended up doing full extinction (Dr. Weissbluth) rather than gradual extinction. Unless she's is sick to where she's thrown up during the day time (which hasn't happened yet), I do not go into her room until she's put her self to sleep and woken up for her nighttime nursing. It is SO hard, but I really think it's been what we have needed for her. I have cried and my husband just tells me no, don't ruin what we've got going, and sure enough by the time I'm about ready to go in there, she's about 5 min away from stopping her crying. The first few nights consisted of over an hour and a half of crying, and then it got better - last night was a rare one for us since starting this method. Now, every baby is different in their needs, some just aren't self soothers. You know you baby best, and if they need you, you will know. I totally suggest a support system - whether it's dad, your own parents, a best friend...anyone that will help YOU out by telling you over and over again how you are helping your child learn and that YOU are a good parent...that's what has helped me. I could not do this without my husband. One thing I tell myself is when she is 3 and wants another ice cream after dinner, I'm going to tell her no...she may cry and cry but she can't have extra desserts all the time. When she starts riding her bike, I'm going to tell her she must wear a helmet...I'm not going to care if she cries and cries about having to do so. I'm teaching her limits and helping her to be healthier in the long run. Those are the things I tell myself when it's hardest :) Best of luck Momma! I know exactly how hard this is!Tamara Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11993885028481225796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1265060199634671300.post-4981527810735304532015-02-24T13:39:04.503-06:002015-02-24T13:39:04.503-06:00Good for you for getting sleep! I have a little o...Good for you for getting sleep! I have a little one about the same age (born 9/3) and am desperate for sleep! She can not even go 1 hour at a time, and that is only if she is being held. Working full time with little to no sleep is not working for me, to say the least! We have tried the Ferber gradual extinction method last night and she cried for one hour and 37 minutes. I gave in at that point and just held her in bed. Would you mind sharing your experience a little more? How long did your training work? How long did she cry the first night? And please assure me that there is light at the end of the tunnel :) Thank you! EllieAva143https://www.blogger.com/profile/14998170304661921019noreply@blogger.com